My husband and I hit the after-Christmas sales a few days ago to pick up some more lights for next year. It wasn’t in the plan, but I spotted a pretty garden flag with a festive poinsettia design. I was thrilled to find that it had been marked down to just $1.25, so I figured it was a no-brainer to get. My husband, however, was a little unhappy (understandably, considering my penchant for clutter). He grumbled, “That’s not a light. Now you’re just buying to be buying.”
That might have been true of some of the other stuff I threw in the cart (the strand of clear lights that I got just because they were both LED and CHEAP), but I really liked the flag. I said, “But I’ve always wanted a garden flag!” He was unconvinced. Continue reading
I recently got a flyer in the mail from The Cleaning Authority, a housecleaning service. It wasn’t addressed to “occupant” or “resident.” It was addressed to me by name. What have they heard??? Is someone staging an anonymous intervention on me? Well, regardless of how The Cleaning Authority found out that my house needs cleaning, they’ve wasted a stamp.
I can’t imagine that I’m their target demographic. I mean, if I had a LOT of spare money, I would love to pay someone else to clean my house. Who wouldn’t? But we are currently a single-earner household (I make a little bit, but it’s like a cheap “tip” next to my husband’s salary), and that makes me a housewife (I prefer “fire tender”), the very definition of which suggests a certain amount of domestic responsibility (unless your life is a TV show). Continue reading
My husband and I fight sometimes. Well, okay, it seems like we can’t go more than a couple of weeks without a big one. I’m not thrilled about that, but experts say that arguing, if done appropriately, is healthy for a marriage. We have a strong and very happy marriage (aside from a day or two here and there). And no matter how serious our fights have seemed, and, quite honestly, I do at the time often wonder how (or if!) we’ll get past them, we always do. And I always feel closer than ever to my husband once we’ve made up. Here are some key points for how to get through and past a fight with your spouse. Continue reading
Do you thaw meat on the counter? Yeah, I know you’re not supposed to, and I understand why, but I wonder how many people disregard that ubiquitous warning. I didn’t used to thaw meat on the counter, but I’ve always been a rule-following kind of gal. Then I met my husband, who, virtuous as he is, often disregards rules, instruction manuals, warning labels, and highway signs. The only authority he recognizes is his mom. But I digress. Continue reading
Last night, as my husband and I worked through a misunderstanding that had caused some bent feelings between us, I mentioned (again) my discontent with the fact that he feels done with having kids because he has three from his first marriage, but I feel shortchanged because I only have one. He had no adequate response for that (how could he?), but he said, “I’m sorry it wasn’t you that I met when I was 19, fell in love, and had kids.” Continue reading
In the last 3.5 months, my husband has lost 45 pounds, and I’ve lost 25. I often compliment him on how much smaller he’s gotten, but he has never, not even a single time, said anything to me. I guess it’s tricky ground for a guy, because noticing that I’m getting smaller would be acknowledging that he noticed that I was bigger. But still, it would be nice to hear some kind of positive reinforcement from him. Continue reading
When something smells bad, it’s usually a sign that something is wrong, and it’s a call to action. A diaper needs to be changed, food needs to be tossed, or a husband needs to be reminded (“You promised not to do that under the covers anymore!”). Most of the time the source of the odor (and, thus, the situation needing attention) is readily apparent. But sometimes it’s a little trickier than that.
For the last couple of days, I noticed a slightly unpleasant smell coming from our bathroom. That’s not exactly newsworthy except that it wasn’t the usual sort of smell. And it got stronger. Continue reading